4 ways to be Kinder to Yourself and build Self-Empathy

 "You are a failure", "You look ugly today", " Everyone is better than you". Do we say these things to others ? I assume the answer is "No" 

Then why do you say these things to yourself ?

We are often cruel to ourselves than we are with other people. But it leads us to develop low self-esteem and deep feelings of shame.

Here are four ways to be kinder to our own self :-

1. Talk to yourself in a kind manner: We often say "I should have my own house in future" or "I need to build a good career". instead of saying these words try saying "I can have my own house in future" and "I choose to have a good career" which boosts a good confidence in you for achieving things in life without feeling it as a burden.

2. Practice Mindfulness to Eliminate Self Judgement: Just like negative self-talk, self-judgement hurts you even if you're not conscious you're doing it. Mindfulness is a necessary step to defeat  self-judgement and build self-compassion. Firstly consider your thoughts and feelings without ruling on whether they're 'good' or 'bad'. Observe them with mindful awareness. Recognize your thoughts and emotions without judging it. Don't try to push it away or suppress it. Remember that thoughts come and go, and feelings change with time. Give yourself time. You can't be judged with one thought or one feeling. This too shall pass.

3. Forgive yourself: Self forgiveness doesn't mean excusing yourself or pretending what you did wasn't wrong but it means showing compassion for yourself and recognizing humanity. Throughout your life you took lessons from parents, caregivers, your experiences, your environment and your physical and mental health all affect the way you treat others and yourself. If your parents didn't have moderate healthy anger, it's likely that you don't express it healthily either. People make mistakes, sometimes huge ones. But it's meaningful to learn from mistakes and avoid repeating it.

4. Don't compare yourself to others: People often use social media to show an idealized version of their life But we tend to forget that people don't share the negative side of their life in social media. Every person has ups and downs in life. Try to resist the urge to compare yourself with others because you only know one side of story. Try to have goals in life which will help you be a better version of yourself. Working out on yourself will boost your self esteem and give u positive energy in life.